White gays are the worst.

Right, so fairly recently, an incident at Toledo Pride occurred which made its rounds on the internet a couple weeks ago.

Ok, so maybe it was only a part of the internet that I see, but whatever.

The story goes like this: a black guy starts talking to a white guy on Grindr who is in an open relationship. At some point, the white guy's boyfriend takes his boyfriend's phone and tells the black guy...

You know what, I'll just let the barrage of Grindr messages speak for itself.

"Even if we were looking for a threesome, we would never hookup with someone like you… we don’t like dark skin, or dark burn culture. We are classy like America. We don’t twerk and do stupid shit that fat black people do. We are civilised people. Please don’t bring your burn culture into ours its already good thanks. Blacks are too dark and have ruined beauty for us queers. Take ur fried chicken and fatty foods elsewhere away from us. You nigers…you can’t even get a nice job. You all are so poor. Can’t even afford a new car. Black people have black skin and is nasty and discussing and unappealing. Stop talking to us whites. We don’t want dark or burnt skinned friends or sex partners… Blacks are unattractive and ugly to even look at… Like you don’t deserve to have the attention of a white man…. I don’t want my clean big dick in some dark boy pussy or black skinned mouth. I would feel ashamed and disgusted."

Source: PinkNews

So, the gay community has a problem with racism. What else is new?

I figured common sense would lead anyone to condemn this racist treatment. But no. Instead, this guy decides to voice his opinion on the matter.

Here's my summary of the article: Well, black guys are racist too!

Okay, maybe, but that doesn't mean that the above Grindr message was remotely okay. Nowhere was there any condemnation of the message. Instead, the writer seems to blame black men who are only into white guys for the message.

Yes, rigid sexual preferences that neither allow for exceptions nor are open to change ("I only date white guys" or "I only date uncut") should indeed be denounced. But they should be denounced on all sides, including the white asshole who authored the message above. Why is it that black men who pursue only white guys are critiqued, whereas white men who pursue only white guys are not, even though both have been socialized to automatically view white as desirable?

All I wanted was for the author of the response article to express disapproval for the author of the Grindr messages. Instead, the burden of fixing internalized racism falls on black men, rather than on those who have substantially more power and representation in the gay community.

And, I know I'm treading dangerous waters, as the guy who wrote that article is black, but you don't get to call black men out for racially biased sexual preferences and also call them "coons" in the same breath. Just, no.